It is common to have a five year plan, especially for a woman in her twenties. For some it includes graduating from college and landing your dream job; maybe getting married, buying a home and having a baby. How about all of it? Why not? Rachelle Friedman had her five-year plan mapped out, but after a devastating accident, one month before her wedding, plans changed. Friedman, 27, is now happily married and ready for the next step, a baby. Her original five year plan may be extended but one thing she isn’t planning on, is giving up.
I’ve always wanted to be a mother. In fact, I’d been thinking about it a lot right before the accident, because my wedding was right around the corner. In 2010, I was playfully pushed into a pool at my bachelorette party resulting in severe spinal cord injury, leaving me paralyzed from the chest down. Before the accident, I followed a very precise timeline; graduate college by 22, get married by 24 and next on the list have a baby in my arms by 27. After I was injured I needed to put my planning on hold and concentrate on my recovery.
It has been four years since the accident and I’ve come a long way and have had a lot of support. It’s not the paralysis that keeps me from being able to have my own child, but there were other complications from the spinal cord injuries. I have such low blood pressure and have to take medication to keep my blood pressure up enough so I don’t pass out. I also experienced a lot of neuropathic pain which I take medication for as well. Those medications are not safe for pregnancy. We really want to have a biological child and surrogacy seemed to be the best option.
Recently, I began guest blogging for a website, www.secretinfertility.com, and wrote about my desire to be a mother and have a surrogate. Being parents would add so much happiness to our lives. Surrogacy Together came forward and offered to help. When I first wrote about wanting to find a surrogate the idea seemed like a fantasy. But now, we have a real opportunity to have a baby. I’m looking forward to all the moments we will share as a family and teaching my child to become a wonderful ambitious human being …and to never give up.